ABD\u2019nin me\u015fhur s\u00f6zl\u00fck yay\u0131nc\u0131s\u0131 Merriam-Webster, 2022\u2019de aramalar\u0131 y\u00fczde 1740 artan \u201cGaslighting\u201d kavram\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131l\u0131n kelimesi ilan etti. Peki y\u0131l\u0131n kelimesi gaslighting\u2019i ne kadar biliyoruz? Gaslighting\u2019e maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l anlar, bununla nas\u0131l ba\u015f edebiliriz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ki\u015filerin kendi haf\u0131zas\u0131ndan ve psikolojik sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan \u015f\u00fcphe duymas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayacak \u015fekilde manip\u00fcle edilmesini ifade eden gaslighting terimi asl\u0131nda ismini 1938\u2019de Patrick Hamilton\u2019\u0131n yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 Gaslight<\/em> adl\u0131 oyundan al\u0131yor (T\u00fcrk\u00e7eye I\u015f\u0131klar S\u00f6nerken<\/em> olarak \u00e7evrildi). 1944 yap\u0131m\u0131 sinema uyarlamas\u0131 ise, Ingrid Bergman\u2019\u0131n canland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 Paula Alquist karakterinin, Gregory Anton\u2019la b\u00fcy\u00fck bir romantizmle evlenmesinin ard\u0131ndan maruz kald\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 konu al\u0131yor: Anton \u00e7e\u015fitli oyunlar ve manip\u00fclasyonlarla Bergman\u2019\u0131n zamanla kendisinden \u015f\u00fcphe etmesine sebep oluyor. Gaslighting terimi bu filmden sonra psikolojide kullan\u0131lan bir terim haline geliyor. Ki\u015finin s\u00fcrekli olarak \u201colaylar\u0131 abartmakla, paranoyakl\u0131kla ve olmayan senaryolar yazmakla\u201d<\/em> su\u00e7lanmas\u0131n\u0131n sonucunda tart\u0131\u015fmalarda muhakeme yetene\u011fini ad\u0131m ad\u0131m kaybetti\u011fi ve en ufak bir hareketinde kendini su\u00e7lu hissetmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir istismar ve psikolojik \u015fiddet y\u00f6ntemi olarak tan\u0131mlan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00d6zellikle yak\u0131n partner ili\u015fkilerinde g\u00fcnl\u00fck olarak \u201cSen kafanda kurup abart\u0131yorsun\u201d ya da \u201cSen yapma, ben hallederim\u201d<\/em> ile ba\u015flayan s\u00f6zde \u201ciyi niyetli\u201d hareketlerin, zamanla \u201cBen b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcyorum\u201d, \u201cBen hi\u00e7bir \u015fey beceremem ki\u201d<\/em>ye d\u00f6nmesi pek \u00e7o\u011fumuza tan\u0131d\u0131k gelecektir. Psikolojik manip\u00fclasyonun bir t\u00fcr\u00fc olan gaslighting’i uygulayanlarda, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015finin kendisini, alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, ger\u00e7ekli\u011fini, inan\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye y\u00f6nelik olan manip\u00fclatif y\u00f6ntemlerle maddi-manevi \u00e7\u0131kar elde etme g\u00fcd\u00fcs\u00fc vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Peki gaslighting’le nas\u0131l m\u00fccadele ederiz?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Gaslighting\u2019le m\u00fccadele etmek, \u00f6zellikle de tek ba\u015f\u0131na olduk\u00e7a zordur. Zaten bu psikolojik \u015fiddetin sonucunda ki\u015fi, kendine ve \u00e7evresine inanmaz hale gelir, d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyayla ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131 keserek \u00e7o\u011fu zaman \u00e7evresine bu olaylardan da bahsetmeyerek sadece faile muhta\u00e7 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr; \u00f6zg\u00fcven ve \u00f6zde\u011ferde zedelenme olu\u015fmu\u015ftur. Bu ki\u015finin onay\u0131n\u0131 almad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kendini g\u00fcvende hissetmez. En do\u011fru \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm faille ili\u015fkiyi kesmek desek de bu da \u00e7ok kolay olmaz. Zira maruz kalan ki\u015fi \u201cBen bu ili\u015fkiyi kesmeyi de beceremiyorum\u201d<\/em> diyerek kendini su\u00e7lu g\u00f6rmeye ve yetersizlik hissetmeye devam eder. Bunun i\u00e7in gaslighting\u2019le m\u00fccadelede en \u00f6nemli dayanak kad\u0131n dayan\u0131\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r. En yak\u0131n \u00e7evremizdeki kad\u0131n dostlar\u0131m\u0131zla, yolda\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zla bu durumu payla\u015fmak ilk ad\u0131m\u0131m\u0131z olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Zira erkek \u015fiddetiyle m\u00fccadelenin her t\u00fcrl\u00fcs\u00fc, erkek egemen d\u00fczenin sistematik \u015fiddetine maruz kalan kad\u0131n ve lubunyalarla dayan\u0131\u015farak m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" ABD\u2019nin me\u015fhur s\u00f6zl\u00fck yay\u0131nc\u0131s\u0131 Merriam-Webster, 2022\u2019de aramalar\u0131 y\u00fczde 1740 artan \u201cGaslighting\u201d kavram\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131l\u0131n kelimesi ilan etti. Peki y\u0131l\u0131n kelimesi gaslighting\u2019i ne kadar biliyoruz? Gaslighting\u2019e maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l anlar, bununla nas\u0131l ba\u015f edebiliriz? Ki\u015filerin kendi haf\u0131zas\u0131ndan ve psikolojik sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan \u015f\u00fcphe duymas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayacak \u015fekilde manip\u00fcle edilmesini ifade eden gaslighting terimi asl\u0131nda ismini 1938\u2019de Patrick Hamilton\u2019\u0131n yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 Gaslight […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":2060,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[93,126],"tags":[107,272,176],"class_list":["post-2057","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kultur-sanat-bilim","category-politika","tag-erkek-siddeti","tag-gaslighting","tag-kadin-dayanismasi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2057","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2057"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2057\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2077,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2057\/revisions\/2077"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2060"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2057"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2057"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadindayanismasi.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2057"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}